The post where I realize we should have probably paid for an actual professional.
- Having the delusion that I liked wedding planning so much that after the wedding I would want to make this a side career. Of course, this idea came earlier in the process. No. Just no. If I ever go back to this idea, SLAP ME!
- Insisting that we wouldn’t procrastinate writing our own vows. When you get grumpy and stressed from all the decisions you need to make, money you are spending, communicating with vendors, chasing down RSVPs, etc., it doesn’t exactly put you in the most lovey-dovey and relaxed mindset to write such a beautiful, heartfelt thing.
- Believing we wouldn’t use someone else’s pre-written vows. See the reasons above.
- Thinking other people will help you because they say they want to. “Is there anything I can do to help you so you’re not so stressed?” usually means, “I want to do the fun stuff, like making decorations, so that you can do more of the stressful stuff.” Is it hard to ask for help and to delegate tasks as a highly organized controlling leader-type person? Yes, it is. I will be the first to admit IT. But if you want to help a bride, offer to do the annoying tasks that the bride doesn’t want to do. The people who did this are the true champions of my life.
- Trying to get away with having only one day-of schedule spreadsheet. When it comes to sharing the whos, whats, wheres, and whens (don’t let me get started with the “why’s”) with the groomsmen, bridesmaids, parents of the groom, parents of the bride, etc., less is not more. I quickly realized that the 68-row-long spreadsheet wasn’t just giving me anxiety, it was also giving everyone else anxiety too. So, to spare them from my own affliction, I made multiple schedules based on the individuals’ roles.
And a bonus, 6th mistake if you will, but perhaps the silliest of all:
Starting a blog about my wedding planning process. It’s been a year to the date that I last posted a blog entry here.
Marry a weirdo! 
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